Lady Captain’s Diary

Lady Captain’s Diary 2016-2017

 And now I am finished: but this little email came late last night from Lesley Miller (well done to the four of you):

…Spose this is too late for your blog but we won this event by 7 points – myself , Paula Newman & 2 ladies from Brampton

Week 52 being Lady Captain’s Diary Finale

I hope to see you at the AGM tomorrow night, 7.00pm. The bar will be open!

I hope very much that you have enjoyed reading my blog all year. It has given me tremendous pleasure being able to let you have all the gossip, as well as inform on more serious matters, and I take this opportunity to offer my humble thanks to you all for reading it and for letting me know that you read it and appreciate it, which made it all very worthwhile.

It is now time for me to sign off. Please be kind to Ann as she takes up office and, if she receives half the support I did from the lady members, she will be okay.

As most of you know, I have been lady captain this year in memory of my dearest friend, Rose Milton, who should have been here but was cruelly taken from us most unexpectedly. I recently attended a friend’s funeral and part of the service included a beautiful poem which struck a chord with me. It is called “Your Dash” by Linda Ellis (1996). Please read it and feel the power of its words, the feeling for which I have a special phrase: “the Frizzle Factor”, where the goosebumps run up and down your spine and into your head like a sparkler that does not burn with pain, only light. This is what I feel every time I help someone – it is so powerful and negates begrudging; this poem makes us think about our life and how we should cherish every minute:


I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend.

He referred to the dates on her tombstone from the beginning to the end.

He noted that first came the date of her birth and spoke of the following date with tears,

but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time that she spent alive on earth

And now only those who loved her know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own, the cars, the house, the cash,

What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard; Are there things you’d like to change?

For you never know how much time is left that can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough to consider what’s true and real

and always try to understand the way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger and show appreciation more

and love the people in our lives like we have never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile,

Remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy is being read with your life’s actions to rehash…

Would you be proud of the things they say about how you spent your dash?

Linda Ellis © (1996)

There have been a lot of ups and downs during my year – some memories I shall cherish; others have already been thrown into the proverbial bin. I have enjoyed every minute of looking after all of you, and thank you so much for the opportunity. It is an experience that cannot be compared with any other captain’s year because everyone is so different. All I wished to do was to ensure that ALL ladies played golf in whatever form and fashion they desired, so hope that for most of you this was the case, and thank you very much for joining in.

I really do appreciate all the wonderful things ladies have said to me during my captaincy (and took note of the not so nice things too – but I bear no grudge). All in all it was a wonderful year for me personally and one which was an experience I shall never forget, and with no regrets.

I seem to have lost the results of the final rounds of competitions since my last blog, so apologise for not posting these.

Two things I do remember playing in: The Greenkeepers Revenge and the Captain’s/Vice Captain’s challenge.

The Captain’s/Vice Captain’s Challenge was a wonderfully relaxing affair. I played for the Vice Captain’s team with my previous mixed partner, the handsome (young) Simon Hodgson against Mike Howieson and his partner (my memory fails me – many apologies). Simon and I were behind all the way round, but Simon kept us nearby for most of the round. At the 14th hole I suddenly regained all my lost golfing skills and could not seem to do anything wrong. Simon and I won by the skin of our teeth, leaving our opponents wondering what just happened when they had been up all the way round! But it was a great day and enjoyed by all those who attended. Someone sent me a picture (memory fails again – sorry), and here it is:

The Greenkeepers Revenge was as last year a total laugh. Some of the obstacles were absolutely ludicrous, others were simply tortuous – like the 18th fairway being covered with balls half way down and we all spent ages looking for our own! There were some very cruel pin positions, and you try putting into the hole when there is a raised plastic cup with only one cut-out for ball entry!!! But well done to everyone – another lovely day of golf.

…and this morning, 6th November, I signed up to play the medal with the Seniors. What a gorgeous day – lots of sunshine, no wind and quite warm. I played with two very nice gentlemen and scored a reasonable round in a very relaxed, ambient atmosphere. Wonderful.

Ladies: did you know that if you admit to being over 55 you are classed as a “Senior” for playing purposes and can play in any senior event on any Monday. Many of you will recall Mae Kember, a founder member and wonderful golfer – she played many competitions with the seniors. If you fancy a Monday play (the only downside from my point of view is the early start – which I am not very good at!), then roll up at 8.00am over the next couple of months and play with the seniors.

I have put my name down to play in the Seniors Winter 5 clubs on Monday 13th November, and of course there is the Seniors and Ladies (under and over 55s) Hot Toddy event on Monday 27th November. This is a great competition with prizes for men and women. This particular event is not a roll up. The sign-up sheet is on the Seniors noticeboard in the corridor – so if you fancy winning a lovely big hamper for Christmas put your name down girls!!!

There are lots more things I could say about being Lady Captain and how it has helped me understand life a bit better, but it is now 9.00pm and it has been a long day and I am sure you are already fed up with reading this, so I will sign off now – oh, just one thing I received from Sally Barnes:

“Dear Tina, Wanted to tell you I had a fantastic score at lakeside at their charity day. I scored 42 points so will leave card in box for consideration. Our team, myself, Wendy O’Brian, Di Calcott and Barbara Thomson came 2nd losing out by 1 point! One day it will happen at Bourn! Sallyx.”

And to you Sally (and all other ladies who play) I say: I know it will happen at Bourn!

Happy golfing everyone and thank you so much for everything.

Au revoir and bonne nuit!

PS: I shall be spending my past lady captain’s year typing up the history of our section so that we have a digital record. If any of you have any historical written records or pictures that you think would be useful to that record, please let me have them and I will add them to the digital files.